Expand Your Perspective


During meditation at my altar this week, after bowing to the ancestors, lighting my devotional candle, and offering incense, I settled into center, allowing the tensions around me to relax. I opened.

In this opening, I was reminded of something that I know deep in my being, yet still sometimes forget:

There is a spaciousness of billions of years around my life. There is a spaciousness of billions of years around every life on earth. We can take a longer breath, for the whole cosmos is breathing.


It is easy to get caught up in our tensions. It is easy to only be engaged in the struggle: to feed ourselves and our families, to pay our rent or mortgage, to fight against the violations of water, sky, and soil, to stand against greed, to fight against fracking or for clean drinking water, to say that the lives of those killed in the streets have value, and that their families are not alone in their grief.

These struggles are important. They are vital. They are also not the only things to pay attention to.

We need to make offerings to our struggles.

We need to give them more space, and a reminder that they have a place that they belong.

When my clients are in a big life transition, when fear, anger, uncertainty or grief has them in a tightening grip, I often remind them to re-center, and then to allow themselves to grow bigger, to expand.

So simple. Take a breath. Upon the exhalation, allow attention to descend into the center of gravity coiled within the belly. Then breathe into that center, allowing the exhaled breath to gently expand the sense of spaciousness around the whole body, giving the difficult emotions more space in which to be.

We all need more space in which to be. We don’t get that by consuming more land, or goods, or money. We don’t get that by filling up our time.


We get more space by slowing down inside, exhaling outward, relaxing our edges enough that we can stretch. Settle. Breathe some more.

Carrying high tension doesn’t help us get more done, it only increases our sense of panic or discomfort.

Carrying high tension causes us to forget this truth: we are connected to the larger flow of time. Our current problem – important as it is to face – isn’t forever.

When I start to constrict around the emergency of extrajudicial killings of my Black and brown brothers, sisters and siblings, I can return to the centering altar and remember:

I’m part of a 20 billion year arc of Being. We all are. 


I still need to show up to the daily struggle, but if I do so in this larger context, my body, mind, and spirit feel looser, more relaxed, and therefore better able to engage for longer periods of time. Forgetting the longer arc can wear us out.

Remembering that we are engaged in a flow of life and death and change so vast our minds cannot contain it serves as a reminder: We don’t have to know it all, because we can’t. All we can do is try our best right now. We can let the rest go. We have to.

Take a breath with me. Drop into your center. Breathe again. Exhale. Relax your edges. Let your breath push your edges outward. Give yourself more space.

Your life will thank you. Your tasks will, too.

Grief, anger, sorrow, or frustration can still fuel your struggle, but you can struggle equipped with a bit more power and ease. That will help us all.

Your life – and whatever you struggle with – is part of a larger whole. Open out. Take up more space. You are surrounded by the great unfolding of space and time.


I think that’s pretty grand.

Arc of Being

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10 Responses to “Expand Your Perspective”

  1. Karen

    Thank you for this, Thorn. I needed the reminder today. 🙂

  2. seeley quest

    a great reminder!
    also, want to note that thorn worked w/me on spiritual direction, and i really recommend her. fair, thoughtful, generous, attentive.
    some months since we finished i’m still pretty daily practicing a mindful, energy shifting breath sequence which she suggested, and i really appreciate it as a ritual which helps me.

  3. Syrbal/Labrys

    This very thing has been much on my mind of late. As my family, all veterans, move forward in management and recovery from PTSD from various sources (the older ones of us from battered childhoods), I suddenly hit a new place in my own work: silence and still. I realized, as I sat down to read, curled in a couch corner that an entirely new stillness filled my entire self! It was so absolutely novel I was first filled with alarm because I had trouble recognizing WHAT I was feeling. But I stayed there, did not jump up to “do” something; I stayed still and refused to feel long-ago-infused guilt for BEiNG still. So, yes…it is all there inside us, once we find the key and the time to open that doorway.

    • PF Publishing

      Bless you and bless your family’s healing.

      I know I’ve said this before, but I always appreciate your perspective. I don’t have your experiences, and therefore find your views so helpful, Labrys.

  4. Cat

    Thank you so much for this. It brought tears to my eyes as I have been struggling with one thing in my life and “battening down the hatches” and trying to “get control of it.” In the end, all I do is cause myself anxiety and shame. This is one arc (haha) I can get on board with.

  5. Phila

    So important to do this…thank you! I often stop when I’m under stress and just focus on my breaths and heart beats. Such a simple practice helps me to ground and take a step away from the issue, find my core again.


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